I found your site from a USA Today article earlier this week. Timely, as we were just discussing some of these issues with my in-laws over the Thanksgiving holiday. Thanks for all the info and resources here. Another resource that I found is Stephen Kiernan's site/book http://stephenpkiernan.com – if you haven't seen it, you might want to. This subject is hard for me, but finding such great support & info has been helpful.